Author Tamara Dawn Posted on October 3, 2022October 3, 2022Categories advice, emotions, freedom, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , ,

Known…

Known… an adjective that means specified or identified… There is, at times, such an uncomfortable level of vulnerability that is involved with being known… Especially when the trials of life cause feelings and emotions to bubble to the surface that you had all but forgotten about… Or maybe you didn’t forget about them… Maybe your time has been spent denying their existence… Either way it can be extremely uncomfortable to give another person insight into the parts of you that … Continue reading “Known…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 19, 2022September 19, 2022Categories advice, conflict, decisions, emotions, freedom, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, vulnerability, waitingTags , , , , ,

If they wanted to know the truth…

There are people who don’t like you… People you have never interacted with… And these people don’t like you because of a version of you they heard about from someone you are no longer in relationship with… And what’s interesting about this is the fact that sometimes the version of you they describe is either a false version or a version of you that no longer exists… I have seen that happen from time to time in my own life… … Continue reading “If they wanted to know the truth…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 5, 2022September 5, 2022Categories advice, conflict, freedom, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , ,

How are they supposed to know…

Boundary… Noun… Something that indicates bounds or limits… Something that indicates the farthest limit… Something that communicates how far you are willing to go… Something that communicates what you are willing or not willing to tolerate… Now that I have done a ton of work to heal… Because trust me when I say this has not always been easy for me… But now that I have done a ton of work healing and trying to have healthier interpersonal skills and … Continue reading “How are they supposed to know…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on July 4, 2022July 4, 2022Categories advice, decisions, fresh start, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerability, waitingTags , , ,

I definitely got off track…

It’s so easy to forget what helped you get to where you are once you get there… And I’m not referring to the people who supported you along your journey, although there ARE times that people forget who helped them to succeed… But what I am referring to is the habits and disciplines that helped you to establish the foundation that you built as you were working to achieve your goal… I have thought about this a lot lately because … Continue reading “I definitely got off track…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on June 20, 2022June 20, 2022Categories advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

I’m okay with being the bad guy…

Knowing yourself and being secure in who you are is so important… And in my opinion, it’s kind of dangerous when you don’t know who you are, because there are people in your life (or people who really don’t know you and only know OF you) who will come up with their own conclusion(s) about you, or about your motives for why you choose to make the moves that you make… And if you don’t know who you are, or … Continue reading “I’m okay with being the bad guy…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on June 13, 2022June 12, 2022Categories advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , ,

Remove yourself…

“When someone shows you who they are… believe them…” I have heard that saying said so many times throughout the years… And while I generally try to be the type of person who believes the best about people… I can admit that it has been extremely problematic when I have ignored someone’s toxic behavior and believed the best about them instead of believing who they were showing me that they were… “People only do what you allow them to do…” … Continue reading “Remove yourself…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 24, 2022May 24, 2022Categories advice, conflict, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

Forgiveness is not for them…

I think there is such a misconception about what forgiveness is… There has to be because I can’t fathom any other reason why someone would willingly choose to NOT forgive someone… I also think a lot of people believe that forgiving someone means that you have to reconcile with that person and let them back in your life… It doesn’t… Or perhaps some people think that forgiving someone means that you have to pretend the offense didn’t occur… It doesn’t … Continue reading “Forgiveness is not for them…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 16, 2022May 16, 2022Categories advice, anticipation, grief, hopeless, introspection, isolation, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, thought process, transparency, UncategorizedTags , , ,

I can’t remember what it was like…

Pain really has this way of making you forget what it was like to exist without the pain…. Especially after you have endured the pain for an extended period of time… And lately I have found myself really reflecting on the last 7 years of my life… And I have also found myself really trying to get past feeling like the same ol same ol will remain the same ol same ol… Cause I’m over it… And it honestly doesn’t … Continue reading “I can’t remember what it was like…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 9, 2022May 9, 2022Categories advice, decisions, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerability, waitingTags , ,

Do you have the right to be upset…

Having unspoken expectations for someone is such a dangerous game to play in my opinion… And I say that because in most cases you end up being disappointed when the expectations aren’t met… But if you really think about it… Do you really have the right to be upset about an expectation not being met that you didn’t take the time to communicate in the first place? I think this is why I am oftentimes so confused when people don’t … Continue reading “Do you have the right to be upset…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 2, 2022May 2, 2022Categories advice, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , ,

Thoughts on unsolicited advice…

Some people know that I am not at all a fan of unsolicited advice… And saying “I’m not a fan…” is actually putting it pretty mildly because I truly cannot stand when people give advice that I didn’t ask for because they’re “just trying to help…” And don’t get me wrong… I have no problem seeking out the wise counsel of someone when necessary…. But unsolicited advice is annoying because in my experience that advice has never been helpful because … Continue reading “Thoughts on unsolicited advice…”