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Tamara Dawn October 10, 2022October 10, 2022conflict, emotions, freedom, growth, growth mindset, healing, introspection, journal, reflection, thought process, transparency, unbothered, Uncategorized, vulnerabilitygrowth

You can believe what you want…

It’s so interesting how you go through life and make different decisions, or have different experiences… And sometimes these decisions or experiences help you decide who you want to become… While other times these decisions or experiences help you decide who you do not want to become… And what I have found most interesting lately, is the notion of people continuing to view me through the lens of who I no longer am… And I used to feel the need … Continue reading “You can believe what you want…”

Tamara Dawn September 19, 2022September 19, 2022advice, conflict, decisions, emotions, freedom, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, vulnerability, waitingconflict, emotions, freedom, journal, reflection, thoughts

If they wanted to know the truth…

There are people who don’t like you… People you have never interacted with… And these people don’t like you because of a version of you they heard about from someone you are no longer in relationship with… And what’s interesting about this is the fact that sometimes the version of you they describe is either a false version or a version of you that no longer exists… I have seen that happen from time to time in my own life… … Continue reading “If they wanted to know the truth…”

Tamara Dawn September 5, 2022September 5, 2022advice, conflict, freedom, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityboundaries, establishing boundaries, healthy boundaries, interpersonal skills, relationship dynamics, relationships

How are they supposed to know…

Boundary… Noun… Something that indicates bounds or limits… Something that indicates the farthest limit… Something that communicates how far you are willing to go… Something that communicates what you are willing or not willing to tolerate… Now that I have done a ton of work to heal… Because trust me when I say this has not always been easy for me… But now that I have done a ton of work healing and trying to have healthier interpersonal skills and … Continue reading “How are they supposed to know…”

Tamara Dawn July 18, 2022July 18, 2022conflict, emotions, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, vulnerabilityemotional health, feel deeply, feeling rejected, healing, painful situation

You don’t heal what you can’t feel…

This past week was the most emotionally draining week I’ve had in a long time… But as I sit and think about all of the emotions that I felt so deeply… the most painful thing about the past week was feeling like I don’t matter to people that matter to me… And let me be clear by stating that I do have great people in my life and have amazing friendships that are life-giving and mutually beneficial… So I am … Continue reading “You don’t heal what you can’t feel…”

Tamara Dawn June 20, 2022June 20, 2022advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilitybe secure, know yourself, motives, narratives

I’m okay with being the bad guy…

Knowing yourself and being secure in who you are is so important… And in my opinion, it’s kind of dangerous when you don’t know who you are, because there are people in your life (or people who really don’t know you and only know OF you) who will come up with their own conclusion(s) about you, or about your motives for why you choose to make the moves that you make… And if you don’t know who you are, or … Continue reading “I’m okay with being the bad guy…”

Tamara Dawn June 13, 2022June 12, 2022advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityestablish boundaries, healthy boundaries, loyal to a fault, mutually beneficial, relationships

Remove yourself…

“When someone shows you who they are… believe them…” I have heard that saying said so many times throughout the years… And while I generally try to be the type of person who believes the best about people… I can admit that it has been extremely problematic when I have ignored someone’s toxic behavior and believed the best about them instead of believing who they were showing me that they were… “People only do what you allow them to do…” … Continue reading “Remove yourself…”

Tamara Dawn May 24, 2022May 24, 2022advice, conflict, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilitycancel the debt, forgiveness, freedom, walk in freedom

Forgiveness is not for them…

I think there is such a misconception about what forgiveness is… There has to be because I can’t fathom any other reason why someone would willingly choose to NOT forgive someone… I also think a lot of people believe that forgiving someone means that you have to reconcile with that person and let them back in your life… It doesn’t… Or perhaps some people think that forgiving someone means that you have to pretend the offense didn’t occur… It doesn’t … Continue reading “Forgiveness is not for them…”

Tamara Dawn April 4, 2022April 3, 2022advice, conflict, decisions, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilitycontrol, internal struggle, not getting my way, power struggle

Power struggles…

I have never really considered myself to be a “controlling” person… Like honestly I have always associated that characteristic with someone who is emotionally or physically abusive… But lately I have really found myself battling deep anger and frustration in circumstances where I have needed to yield to someone else’s control to avoid the unnecessary power struggle that would occur as a result of me trying to make sure things went the way that I had hoped or planned that … Continue reading “Power struggles…”

Tamara Dawn February 21, 2022February 21, 2022conflict, grief, growth mindset, hopeful, hopeless, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityfreedom, processing, refreshed, therapeutic

Hopefully I remember…

During the past several days I have learned how important it is for me to pour out all the mess that tends to float around in my heart and mind… And honestly you would think that I would know that as an external processor, but so often I forget that I can’t stuff the things that are truly bothering me… And there is something so refreshing and freeing about saying, yelling, or screaming out the things that are bothering me … Continue reading “Hopefully I remember…”

Tamara Dawn January 31, 2022January 31, 2022advice, conflict, decisions, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilitybitterness, evolve, growth, know your worth, level up, resentment, support system

When you level up…

There have been many times in my life when I could tell that I had grown in a specific area or had arrived at this new level where I just knew that I was different… And I’m not really sure how else to explain what I mean by that, but if you know what that feels like then you know what I’m saying… But what is more so interesting when that happens, is how long it can sometimes take certain … Continue reading “When you level up…”