Author Tamara Dawn Posted on October 3, 2022October 3, 2022Categories advice, emotions, freedom, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , ,

Known…

Known… an adjective that means specified or identified… There is, at times, such an uncomfortable level of vulnerability that is involved with being known… Especially when the trials of life cause feelings and emotions to bubble to the surface that you had all but forgotten about… Or maybe you didn’t forget about them… Maybe your time has been spent denying their existence… Either way it can be extremely uncomfortable to give another person insight into the parts of you that … Continue reading “Known…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 19, 2022September 19, 2022Categories advice, conflict, decisions, emotions, freedom, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, vulnerability, waitingTags , , , , ,

If they wanted to know the truth…

There are people who don’t like you… People you have never interacted with… And these people don’t like you because of a version of you they heard about from someone you are no longer in relationship with… And what’s interesting about this is the fact that sometimes the version of you they describe is either a false version or a version of you that no longer exists… I have seen that happen from time to time in my own life… … Continue reading “If they wanted to know the truth…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 12, 2022September 12, 2022Categories decisions, emotions, freedom, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, isolation, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

Relational Reflections…

Healing is starting to feel really exhausting… And it’s not so much the act of healing itself that’s exhausting… Because once the crying has ended (as that tends to accompany my healing as of lately) I feel freer and less weighed down… But healing is starting to feel exhausting because in some cases I’m still interacting with the very people who have caused the wounds that I am processing and working to heal from… And my healing is starting to … Continue reading “Relational Reflections…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 5, 2022September 5, 2022Categories advice, conflict, freedom, friendships, growth mindset, healing, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , ,

How are they supposed to know…

Boundary… Noun… Something that indicates bounds or limits… Something that indicates the farthest limit… Something that communicates how far you are willing to go… Something that communicates what you are willing or not willing to tolerate… Now that I have done a ton of work to heal… Because trust me when I say this has not always been easy for me… But now that I have done a ton of work healing and trying to have healthier interpersonal skills and … Continue reading “How are they supposed to know…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on July 18, 2022July 18, 2022Categories conflict, emotions, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, vulnerabilityTags , , , ,

You don’t heal what you can’t feel…

This past week was the most emotionally draining week I’ve had in a long time… But as I sit and think about all of the emotions that I felt so deeply… the most painful thing about the past week was feeling like I don’t matter to people that matter to me… And let me be clear by stating that I do have great people in my life and have amazing friendships that are life-giving and mutually beneficial… So I am … Continue reading “You don’t heal what you can’t feel…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on June 20, 2022June 20, 2022Categories advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

I’m okay with being the bad guy…

Knowing yourself and being secure in who you are is so important… And in my opinion, it’s kind of dangerous when you don’t know who you are, because there are people in your life (or people who really don’t know you and only know OF you) who will come up with their own conclusion(s) about you, or about your motives for why you choose to make the moves that you make… And if you don’t know who you are, or … Continue reading “I’m okay with being the bad guy…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on June 13, 2022June 12, 2022Categories advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , ,

Remove yourself…

“When someone shows you who they are… believe them…” I have heard that saying said so many times throughout the years… And while I generally try to be the type of person who believes the best about people… I can admit that it has been extremely problematic when I have ignored someone’s toxic behavior and believed the best about them instead of believing who they were showing me that they were… “People only do what you allow them to do…” … Continue reading “Remove yourself…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 24, 2022May 24, 2022Categories advice, conflict, fresh start, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

Forgiveness is not for them…

I think there is such a misconception about what forgiveness is… There has to be because I can’t fathom any other reason why someone would willingly choose to NOT forgive someone… I also think a lot of people believe that forgiving someone means that you have to reconcile with that person and let them back in your life… It doesn’t… Or perhaps some people think that forgiving someone means that you have to pretend the offense didn’t occur… It doesn’t … Continue reading “Forgiveness is not for them…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on February 28, 2022February 28, 2022Categories advice, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, support, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , ,

Honest reflections…

It’s so important to be honest with yourself… And it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who truly care about your well-being and are secure enough in your relationship to tell you the hard truth that you may need to hear… It’s so problematic when you surround yourself with “yes” men and women because they will really have you out here looking crazy, depending on what needs to be addressed… But let’s circle back to being honest with ourselves … Continue reading “Honest reflections…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on January 31, 2022January 31, 2022Categories advice, conflict, decisions, friendships, growth mindset, hopeful, introspection, journal, leadership, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , , ,

When you level up…

There have been many times in my life when I could tell that I had grown in a specific area or had arrived at this new level where I just knew that I was different… And I’m not really sure how else to explain what I mean by that, but if you know what that feels like then you know what I’m saying… But what is more so interesting when that happens, is how long it can sometimes take certain … Continue reading “When you level up…”