Boundary…
Noun…
Something that indicates bounds or limits…
Something that indicates the farthest limit…
Something that communicates how far you are willing to go…
Something that communicates what you are willing or not willing to tolerate…
Now that I have done a ton of work to heal…
Because trust me when I say this has not always been easy for me…
But now that I have done a ton of work healing and trying to have healthier interpersonal skills and healthier relationship dynamics…
I really struggle with watching other people disrespect someone else’s boundaries…
And when I say “struggle” what I really mean is I get thoroughly pissed off even if the person whose boundary has been violated is not upset…
I also find it upsetting when people tell me that they don’t want to communicate their boundaries. But more so because you truly do yourself and the other person a disservice when you don’t take the necessary time to communicate (and reinforce when necessary) your boundaries…
Like how are they supposed to know what they can and cannot do if you don’t tell them…
How are they supposed to know what you are or are not comfortable with if you don’t give them insight into what your limits are…
And as I said earlier, this has not always been easy for me, so I know it takes work to feel comfortable establishing boundaries after years of living a boundaryless life…
But the discomfort is temporary and the more that you do it, the easier it becomes to continue doing it…