Author Tamara Dawn Posted on November 22, 2021November 22, 2021Categories advice, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerability, waitingTags

Break the chains…

It has been pretty interesting trying to start this blogpost… My thoughts are all over the place and there are so many things that I want to discuss, but I can’t seem to find a specific train of thought to ride today… But I will say that it is pretty interesting the way that “hurt people” operate at times because it almost seems like they find some sort of joy in inflicting emotional pain and trauma on the next person… … Continue reading “Break the chains…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on November 9, 2021November 10, 2021Categories advice, conflict, friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, thought process, transition, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , ,

What a time to be alive… Part 2

It’s interesting to me how many wounded individuals are out here pretending like they are ok while simultaneously causing mental and/ or emotional damage to the next man or woman because they refuse to do the work that is necessary to address and heal from their triggers… And I know from firsthand experience how hard and painful it can be to dive into past pain and trauma… But isn’t it worth the effort to be able to walk around free … Continue reading “What a time to be alive… Part 2”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on September 27, 2021September 27, 2021Categories friendships, growth mindset, introspection, journal, Monday's musing, reflection, relationships, support, thought process, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , , , , , , ,

Fake people showing fake love…

It’s really interesting how pursuing your dreams has this way of showing you a lot about the people that you have surrounded yourself with… And from what I’m seeing, the people around you can be placed into one of three categories… First, you have the people who genuinely support what you are doing… These are the people who are excited for you and are inspired by your hard work and diligence… These are the people who encourage you when needed… … Continue reading “Fake people showing fake love…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on May 1, 2021May 1, 2021Categories decisions, friendships, growth mindset, journal, reflection, relationships, transparency, Uncategorized, vulnerabilityTags , , ,

I’m glad that’s over…

I’ve never been more happy for a month to be over… April was wild… It was a hella busy month… it feels like I took a lot of L’s… and I started having these weird muscle spasms and/ or stiffness in my neck and upper back… Don’t get me wrong though… there were good things that happened as well… but I can honestly say that the bad outweighed the good… However… None of the previously mentioned things can remotely come … Continue reading “I’m glad that’s over…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on February 15, 2021April 17, 2021Categories friendships, journal, reflection, relationships, single, transparency, Uncategorized, waitingTags , , , ,

Getting to know You…

I see so many people talk about how hard this is to accomplish… but if I’m honest, making new friends as an adult has been pretty easy… Now I guess I should note that most of these adult friendships have been formed with coworkers or people who I’ve met at whatever church I was attending at the time… So oftentimes it was not hard to find common ground to build rapport upon… But now that I’ve decided to venture into … Continue reading “Getting to know You…”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on January 1, 2021April 17, 2021Categories advice, friendships, isolation, journal, reflection, relationships, UncategorizedTags , , ,

So what’s my future…?

So I guess this is my first blogpost of 2021… That seems like such a weird statement to type… And it’s kind of crazy how I suddenly feel this odd amount of pressure to set the tone for the new year with this post and write something super positive and uplifting, now that all of the hell we endured throughout 2020 has ended forever… Yay!! *cue the confetti and fireworks and other celebratory devices* Sorry to disappoint you if that’s … Continue reading “So what’s my future…?”

Author Tamara Dawn Posted on November 15, 2020April 17, 2021Categories friendships, journal, reflection, relationships, transparency, UncategorizedTags , , , , , 2 Comments on The tragedy of Trauma Bonds

The tragedy of Trauma Bonds

Though I’m not usually one who ever tries to speak on behalf of anyone, I think that we can agree that most, if not all of us, have this desire to be seen, heard, or understood.  This is something that I have been reflecting on a lot lately as I’ve examined the way that I’ve built friendships over the past decade and a half of my adulthood. Things are so weird right now…  I can’t pinpoint the exact moment in … Continue reading “The tragedy of Trauma Bonds”